They just don't get it!
In the car Tuesday night I tried bringing up a fresh start for November 1st. Through work I have access to this meal planner for different diets (diabetic diet, vegan, etc). It will give you a months meal plans and it assembles the grocery list for you! Cool, huh? I wanted to purge the crap and stock myself with leans meats, veggies, and healthy snacks. If crap isn't in the house than I won't be tempted. I would like to go this route until I get myself to a place where eating healthy is my habit.
For those that don't know my husband - he can be pretty stubborn. And skinny. Boy likes his routine. His lunches consist of the same type of thing almost every day. I probably didn't approach this conversation the best way, but before I could even explain what I wanted or why it was important to me he just shut me down. 'Why can't I still have it and you just not eat it?' I tried to tell him it was hard for me. 'If you know it isn't good for you, I don't understand why you can't just leave it alone.' That one stung a little. I snapped back that it wasn't important that he understood why it was hard for me. It was his job to just appreciate that it is a struggle for me and to try and be supportive. And then we didn't say another two words to each other the whole ride and I just silently cried in the passenger seat.
I don't want to do this alone. I was hoping that our household could go forward with a good healthy start. We both could benefit from eating better. He has been so supportive through our whole IF struggle. Going to almost every appointment, being the strong one while I cried, pumping me up before I told my mom, etc. I think that is why I was so shocked to be rejected so quickly.
I'm going to need strength. Perseverance to leave 'his food' alone. Even when I don't feel like cooking a full meal, I need to be sure that I have healthy quick options available. Perhaps I need to empty out the pantry and organize a couple of shelves just for me? Thankfully I cook the majority of our meals and he always eats whatever I cook without complaint. I will start there. Good dinners and healthy snacks for work.
If you have a good recipe (basically low carb) that you'd like to share, I would love to have it! The more variety the better.
For now I'm going to bake a pie - to throw at that husband of mine. Gotta love 'em.
Oh that is frustrating! We eat pretty healthy already here but about six months ago our naturopath told my husband no more pre-made anything. If you read a label and there is anything on it that isn't a whole real food, don't eat it. Luckily he was quick to adopt this but in our case we have severe male factor so it is likely much easier to get my husband on board.
ReplyDeleteMan! (and Men!!) I'm sorry that his reaction wasn't more positive and encouraging for you. I'm betting he just feels semi-threatened at the prospect of 'losing' HIS favorite treats or foods... which doesn't have to be the case at all. (I think back to when my mom would diet when I was growing up -- then we ALL effectively were dieting, too!)
ReplyDeleteBut it sounds like you've thought through it, and have a good plan of action, despite his reaction. I have a great "Chicken Rockefeller" recipe that I can send you... this recipe from all.recipes.com is similar to it, you would just decrease the bacon to 7 pieces and replace the mahi-mahi with chicken. VERY good and the hubby LOVES anything with cheese or bacon. They definitely don't feel as deprived, when that's on the menu.
http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Mahi-Mahi-Rockefeller/Detail.aspx
This is great served with roasted veggies (I toss my faves in a little olive oil, sea salt, pepper and tarragon and bake for 30 min on 400) or with a greek salad.
Hang in there!
My husband does that too - he'll load up my plate with carbs and then when I protest, will say "you don't have to eat it all then". Yeah, but if I was good and not eating everything on my plate then I wouldn't be fat!
ReplyDeleteMy recipe is pretty simple, and we eat this at least once a week. Pre-heat an oven to about 180C. Roughly chop aubergine and two peppers, and some halloumi or paneer cheese, and stick everything in a baking tray (if you really want some meat instead of cheese, then try mixing a pound of lamb with a tsp each of cumin and coriander and chilli and some salt and make meatballs). Finely chop some garlic and chillis and toss them with the veg and cheese along with some olive oil and juice from a lemon.
And that's it. Just bake it until everything is cooked (about 20 mins) and eat with yoghurt, chilli sauce, and a bag of salad. You could toss the cooked veg with the bag of salad and just have that, but we usually just plonk the baking tray on the table with a couple of pittas and flour tortillas each, and construct our own wraps.