Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Conversations with your MIL

Scene: out to a nice dinner, MIL comes in and we're already seated.

Me: Hi!

MIL: Well, hello! I hope I didn't leave you waiting.

J: Nope, not at all. We just ordered drinks.

MIL: (to me) What are you having to drink tonight?

Me: Vodka 7

MIL: Oh, well then... Nevermind! I guess that answers my question.

Me & J: Huh?! (Exchange looks of bewilderment)

MIL: Well... if she's drinking she's not... you know...

J: Pregnant?? No, she's not.


I cannot imagine why we waited three years until we told her. This cannot happen each time we get together or there will need to be words.

The status of my uterus is not open dinner conversation. She's lucky I didn't start telling her about being on my period while she enjoyed her shrimp cocktail. But, how do you delicately broach that subject?

Oh the joys of an infertile daughter-in-law.


  1. *snap* do not even get me started. you can't delicately broach the subject, just go straight into over the shrimp cocktail.

  2. Oh man, that's tough. Sorry. One of the few good things about telling people you are infertile is that usually they don't ask you about baby making.
    Hopefully she will cut back on the comments after that evening.

  3. I can totally relate to this post!!! My in-laws (FIL included) berated me at a wedding 3 days after having an IUI for having a couple of beers. Not ok. Not ever.

  4. Ugh. You should have made the shrimp cocktail comment. And then loudly excused yourself " I ahve to go change my tampon now." Sorry you had to deal with that :( I've had that happen to me in the past with different people, but they didnt actually say anything. It was the look in their eyes as I accepted a glass of wine...

  5. Have you guys mentioned the infertility problems to her? May be worth that conversation to avoid further comments. I told my in-laws once we found out about the problems, and they ended up being a great support system. Of course, I'm close to them, too, so it really depends on your comfort level! I'm sorry you had to deal with that, I still have yet to understand why people think the state of someone's uterus is acceptable dinner conversation.

  6. Nevermind, I just re-read and gathered that you did. That's what I get for reading too fast! I'm really surprised she asked when she knows.

  7. Seriously? I wish I was there for that comment.